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Burger King, California, Dream, New York, Question, South Carolina, Walmart
As a kid, we dream about what were going to do with our life.
What are we going to do? How many goals will we achieve!?
But then we get a little older, you know… the preteen stage where you constantly wonder if you’re going to get married. And oh!!! Who will it be!?
Will we live in California, or maybe New York… or maybe we’ll want to settle down in South Carolina. But what will it be like!?
As you get to be a teenager, you don’t question much accept how your parents can be so controlling… and why are they just making my life worse!?!?
Once you get over that stage though, you’re in your panic “WHAT DO I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE!? I’M GRADUATING SOON!!! COME ON, GET IT TOGETHER!!!” mode… It’s not fun or amusing, and you turn to other things to calm yourself.
Hmmm…. will getting drunk help ease the stress? Will smoking a quick joint take the edge off? Maybe sex… will it help distract me for just a little bit?
Well let’s find out! So you try it…. and it kind of really works. At least for a little bit.
So you do it again, and again…. because it doesn’t last forever.
Plus, you’ve already done it, so why stop at just once?
Then you get into the “What’s wrong with me?” mindset… you question if you’re becoming dependent on drugs, alcohol or sex… and usually when you have to ask that question… you already are.
Before you know it, you’re graduating and you still don’t know what to do with your life because you kept “distracting” yourself… but then you don’t end up going to College, at least maybe right away. You get a job at Walmart or Burger King and just go with the flow.
You’ll start to realize that this isn’t what you dreamed of as a kid… so let’s change it!!! Should I go to college, or just move to the city and try to get a good job?
How about moving to the city, doesn’t seem like as much work!
When you get there, you find an okay job with an okay salary…
Then you think to yourself… Does this satisfy my childhood dreams and goals? No, no it doesn’t.
Off to college working your way toward your dream job and it gets a little stressful and overwhelming… tempted to turn back to your older “distraction” methods… do you? Will it help you get through for the time being, and then you’ll just stop once you graduate?
Choosing to answer those questions as no, you just get through the stressful time using other, more positive, ways. You graduate and have that overwhelming question of “WAIT!!! Now what!?” and you’re at a loss for what to do… Being somewhere are 27, you’re life is just beginning…. but you think it’s starting to end.
You figure out how to get a job with your degree, and go with it full speed.
Around 35, you’ve had a successful career so far, but you’re missing something.
Oh yeah!!!! The whole wanting to get married and have a family thing…
Now that’s your priority… You have a house and a good look at life, but nobody to share it with.
You go around, constantly asking yourself whenever you talk to a girl…
Wait! Is she the one!? So you test that theory, and it doesn’t work. Then you get into that “was it all my fault???” crying, depressed mode.
You just give up on that.
Sooo….marriage isn’t for you? Well.. okay then.
10 years later (45 now…) you finally meet this amazing woman. You ask her the biggest and most important question of your entire life:
Will you marry me?
And at that moment, she asks herself the biggest question of her life… Do I want to spend the rest of my life with him?
From that point on, no question seems as big or important… you are no longer tempted to turn to the negative things in your life because you have your spouse and you’re happy.
But you are forgetting the biggest, most important question:
Am I happy with the life I had?
And ultimately, that will be the deal breaking question… The final one we all have to face and come to terms with.